How to Spot a Liar Like a Pro

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How to Spot a Liar Like a Pro

Nobody is 100% honest 100% of the time, we’re inclined to believe. In fact, a 2002 study from the University of Massachusetts found that more than half of adults can’t even have a 10-minute conversation without telling at least one lie. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t learn how to spot a liar.

Of course, these untruths vary in their degree of falsehood and severity, ranging from little white lies (“You look great in that hat!”) to big, earth-shattering secrets, like covering up an affair. No matter what the reason, however, dishonesty is often detrimental to personal relationships.

More importantly, believing someone’s lie and learning that your life has been affected by that false information can be devastating. Think of someone who drops everything to be with a romantic partner—only to find out that the person they love is already married with a family.

That’s why being able to pick up the subtle hints that a partner, friend or family member is telling a lie can be an extremely useful skill to have.

Signs of a liar (that actually aren’t)

You might think you know what a liar looks like. “Telltale” signs, such as excessive sweating, fidgeting, darting eyes or tripping over words, are often cited as clear indicators of deception. While these behaviors may very well indicate a particular individual is lying, there simply isn’t one thing that all liars have in common, said Kevin O., a New-Jersey based law enforcement officer.

“Some people have idiosyncratic ‘tells,’ but it’s hard to discover these unless you can catch them in the lie and then associate the signal with lying,” Kevin explained. “Instead, what we are looking for is signs of abnormal behavior. The more information you have on your suspect’s normal behavior, the easier it will be to pick up on when they are lying.”

People who are exceptionally good liars will typically know that you’re looking for physical signs of a lie and may train themselves to maintain their composure during an interrogation. On the flip side, an innocent person who is telling the truth may have some nervous ticks that could give the false impression of a lie.

Multiple studies have found that attempts to read lies from body language and facial expressions alone are largely incorrect. The BBC reported that according to one study, just 50 out of 20,000 people could identify a liar from physical cues with over 80% accuracy.

For this reason, polygraph (lie detector) tests cannot be considered accurate or admissible as evidence in court. As John Baesler notes in his article for Smithsonian, polygraph measurements (changes in blood pressure, heart rate, breathing, etc.) are not reliable indicators of deception, because “emotional responses are not uniform among humans and can be imitated by countermeasures.”

How to spot a liar

As Kevin noted, catching a liar is more about noticing abnormal behaviors or inconsistencies in a story, rather than seeking out particular physiological tells. To get a feel for someone’s “normal” behavior, he recommends starting out the conversation in a soft, non-confrontational tone to build rapport. Doing so may put the person you’re questioning at ease and make them feel comfortable enough to converse normally.

“The better rapport [you have] with the person you’re questioning, the easier time you will have trying to get the information you need,” added Kevin.

One technique Kevin uses when questioning suspects whom he believes may try to lie their way out of a situation is to ask a question that he already knows the answer to.

“This not only helps me gauge their willingness to lie, but I can see if they exhibit any kind of physical sign that accompanies the lie, like a change in stance or body movement,” he said.

Here are a few other ways to potentially spot a liar:

  • Ask an unexpected question. The person may have rehearsed answers to “anticipated” questions.
  • Listen for complex, formal sentences or excessive talking/repetition. The person may do this to sound legitimate.
  • Have the person repeat their story backward. Liars tend to memorize and rehearse their story in a certain order. Having to recall the events in reverse order may trip them up.

Again, there’s no single factor that is a guaranteed indicator of a lie. However, observing certain behaviors may cause you to dig deeper and investigate the person’s story further, like doing an online people search to see what information of theirs might be out there for you to try to investigate.

What to do when you catch someone lying

So you have concrete evidence that someone is lying to you. Perhaps it’s an incriminating email or text message screenshot, or a timestamped photo that proves the person wasn’t where they claimed to be. You may want to shove your proof in their face and demand an explanation, but instead of going on the offensive and making accusations, you may want to give them an opportunity to tell their lie.

In a law enforcement setting, suspects are often asked to give their full account of an event, even if the interrogator knows the information is false as they’re telling the story. Kevin explained that when a suspect is telling a story built on a lie, other information in the story is usually impacted by that one false detail.

“I prefer to let the suspect finish what they have to say about the incident in question, then see how far the lie affects everything they have said,” said Kevin. “Once they’ve stated everything they want to say about the incident on record, you can then go back through their story and pick it apart piece by piece. Every point the suspect has made thus far can now be called into question because their credibility has been lost.”

In other words, listening carefully to the words and details that someone is sharing can help you better spot inconsistencies that are based on that initial lie.

It pays to be suspicious

It’s always difficult to think someone you trust isn’t being honest with you. If you believe someone is lying to you, don’t jump to conclusions based solely on signs like fidgeting and eye movement; instead, scan their stance and behavior for anything that jumps out as out of the ordinary.

Disclaimer: The above is solely intended for informational purposes and in no way constitutes legal advice or specific recommendations.

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Nicole Fallon

Nicole Fallon is a former journalist turned copywriter and content strategist. She is based in New Jersey and enjoys helping small businesses grow through great content marketing.