Disclaimer: The below is solely intended for informational purposes and in no way constitutes legal advice or specific recommendations.
“Micro-cheating” is the latest dating term to cause frenzy on social media. But what is it?
As psychologist and dating expert Melanie Schilling told HuffPost Australia, “micro-cheating is a series of seemingly small actions that indicate a person is emotionally or physically focused on someone outside their relationship.”
While physical cheating is easy to define, the signs of micro-cheating aren’t always as clear. How can you tell if your boyfriend or girlfriend is micro-cheating? We look at seven signs to indicate that you’re being micro-cheated on.
Your partner might be micro-cheating if they…
1. Smile Or Laugh At Their Phone A Lot
The micro-cheater is obsessed with checking the social media feeds of the person they desire. You may be able to detect this by paying attention to how much or often your partner is smiling or laughing at their phone – and if you’re not included in whatever funny thing is happening, watch out.
2. Get More Excited About Another Person’s Social Media Posts Than Yours
Your partner might be micro-cheating if they are liking, commenting or tagging themselves in another person’s social posts more than yours.
3. Belittle Your Relationship
The micro-cheater doesn’t want to make it seem like you’re in a “serious” relationship, even if you are living together or deleted your Tinder profiles. They will belittle or downplay your relationship to the object of their attention.
4. Purposefully Neglect To Mention You In Conversation With Others
Your partner might be trying to make it look like they are single.
5. Share Good News With Someone Else First
In a healthy, loving relationship, you should be the first person your partner goes to for sharing good news. If not, you may be dealing with someone whose emotions are with someone else.
6. Send An Old Photo To Their Ex
Your partner sending an old photo to an ex might mean they want to relive that memory or rekindle that flame.
7. Share Secrets With Someone They Are Attracted To
When your partner confides or shares their secrets and emotions with someone that they are attracted to, that’s not a good sign.
If you suspect your partner is micro-cheating, one thing you can do to help your relationship is to express what behaviors are bothering you. Sometimes, the person micro-cheating isn’t even aware they are doing it.
Every couple is different, and what might be considered micro-cheating to one person might not be the same for someone else. For any relationship to function, you must be on the same page.
Make an effort to communicate with your partner and set terms you both agree on. One thing you might want to consider is having a relationship contract, in which you keep an agreement of how you will treat each other.
For tips on what to include in your relationship agreement, see our blog: Does Your Relationship Need A Contract?