Before you decide to try to take things any further with your online crush, it’s a good idea to check out the social media profiles of your potential new love interest. You can learn a lot about someone this way, which is a smart thing to do based on the fact you’re considering a relationship with this person.
Take for example the things we learned about Lee Garrett from The Bachelorette. A look back at his Twitter account reveals he has a seeming history of questionable tweets, that many might consider racist. This might be a deal-breaker for many women…why wait to find out about this until after you have been dating him?
Here are nine insightful things you can learn from scoping out the social media profiles of someone you met on a dating app:
9. How Often He Is on Social Media
Getting an idea of how often your crush is on social media is important because it might be an indication of how compatible you are.
You might discover that he is a social media “junky” who likes posting images of his every meal to Instagram, complete with numerous emojis. Or that he takes a reverse approach and keeps a minimal online footprint.
Either way, the social media habits of someone can really get annoying if they differ drastically from your own – so think about that before wading too far into a relationship with him.
8. What He “Likes” or Shares
We all come across something – an article, a video, a news story – that inspires us to like or share it. Something that made us laugh, think, get angry or touched our heart.
Whatever it is he likes or shares, is of interest to him. You can get to know a lot about a person, and whether you might share the same interests, by noticing what he chooses to hit the like or share button on.
7. Who His Friends Are
The people we spend our time with influence us. Motivational speaker Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” And about 170 years before him, Goethe famously said, “Tell me with whom you consort with and I will tell you who you are.”
You can get an idea of who your crush is by knowing who his friends are. And thanks to social media, the world sometimes feels smaller. Everyone is connecting. So, you could discover you have mutual friends too – which could be a good ice breaker if you haven’t mustered up the courage to talk to your crush yet.
6. His Taste in Music (Or Lack Thereof)
There’s a good reason why you want to know what your potential partner likes to rock out to.
We tend to like people who like the kind of music we do. Plus, knowing music preferences proves to do a “reasonable job” at predicting personalities.
Scope out your crush’s social media profiles to discover what kind of music he is into and you might have something to easily connect over…or you may be headed for a future of listening to death metal.
5. The TV Shows & Type of Movies He Likes
Netflix and Chill? Or will his taste make you feel ill? Why wait to find out?
4. His Pets and Feelings About Animals
Is he a dog person or cat person? Or are they horribly allergic? And if you’re an animal lover, how will you react to his weekly hunting trips with his pals? When people feel strongly about animals, they typically post photos of it on their social media accounts.
Compatibility requires you to find this out early.
3. How He Has Changed
You don’t want to be creepy and start scrolling down months or years into your crush’s timeline, but… you could potentially discover via a background check his old social media profiles, like MySpace, and the others even HE has forgotten about.
It’s wise to get an idea of what this person was like in the past – before you consider a future together.
2. Past Relationships
1. Overall Lifestyle
It’s easy to fantasize that your crush is everything you could ever want, but of course, that’s not reality. Before you can consider a relationship with this person, find out if you two even share the same kind of lifestyle.
On dating apps, people tend to want to make an impression; whereas social media profiles might give a more unfiltered picture of how he likes to live because he is sharing this stuff with friends and family.
You can’t judge a book by its cover, but you can likely get a good impression of your crush from his social media profiles. Doing so now could save you a headache or heartache down the road.