Disclaimer: The below is solely intended for informational purposes and in no way constitutes legal advice or specific recommendations.
Urban Dictionary has online dating apps to thank for numerous new entries of questionable merit. Here’s the latest example: Tindstagramming. A term to describe the annoying habit of a guy who thinks your rejection of him was an accident, and as a result follows-up with you through an obnoxious message on Instagram.
Although this problem seems to be one mainly affecting women, men can have it bad on dating apps too, just in different ways.
Below, we look at the biggest challenges men and women face on dating apps and a suggestion for how to deal with the problem.
A Typical Challenge For Women: Jerks
Tinder recently released a new feature called Tinder Reactions, which gives users the opportunity to express what they are feeling… through animations.
Now you can (virtually) throw a martini at someone who offends you, or send someone sarcastic eye-rolls when needed. There are even rounds of applause for when you’re impressed.
The dating app partnered with comedian Whitney Cummings to introduce Tinder Reactions as a way for women to deal with douchebags.
It makes sense, as one of the biggest challenges women face on Tinder especially is dealing with aggressive jerks.
Solution: Don’t Waste Your Time
The best solution for dealing with jerks is to avoid engaging with them in the first place.
Even if you scold them, you’re giving them what they want. Jerks are basically dating app trolls – refuse to take what they say personally and move on.
A Typical Challenge For For Men: “Like” Inequality
As Hinge data scientist Aviv Goldgeier revealed, “it’s actually the most attractive men who soak up the most disproportionate amount of their gender’s affection.”
In other words, men send more likes to women than women send to men. When women do send likes, they go to a much smaller group of men, relative to the broader amount of likes that women receive.
As a man, you face a much more competitive, and some might say unforgiving, environment for attention (or rather, lack of attention) from women.
Solution: Initiate More
(Without being a jerk, of course).
You may be able to increase your chances of finding a special date if you send the first like.
Hinge data reveals that “on average, people are twice as likely to like someone back as they are to like someone in the first place.”
Like Dale Carnegie wrote in How to Win Friends and Influence People; “you can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”
So, guys, don’t be afraid to send a nice message to a woman you like.
A Typical Challenge For Both Men And Women: Dishonesty
As you likely have experienced if you have online dated for more than a minute, it’s not uncommon for one to use a picture of themselves from 5 or 10 years ago to increase his or her chances of being more attractive to the pool of online singles.
What’s even worse is when someone steals another person’s image and uses it as his or her own. Yep, you need to watch out for dishonest people like that.
Solution: Find Out The Truth
It’s always a good idea to verify the things your match says.
With a simple online search, you can potentially find clues about this person by what exist of him or her online.
Even with the challenges singles face with dating apps, the thrill of swiping right never seems to get old.