Disclaimer: The below is solely intended for informational purposes and in no way constitutes legal advice or specific recommendations.
Anything goes on Tinder, right?
Not exactly. It turns out that there are certain things you might want to avoid posting on your Tinder profile.
A woman named Nichole learned this the hard way when her Tinder profile landed at the center of some recent internet controversy. Nichole’s profile featured photos of her enjoying one of her favorite hobbies: hunting. The Vermont-based marketing strategist was hoping to find a partner who accepted her cherished family pastime, but instead of matches, she got some pretty negative reactions — including a big, fat ban from Tinder.
While there’s debate about whether this was fair for Tinder to do (Nichole told the New York Post that she had seen plenty of male users with hunting photos in their profile), what you put on your online dating profile can potentially impact your success rates in attracting your ideal matches.
Tinder Mistakes You Might Be Making
If you find yourself continuously striking out on Tinder, you might be making one of these common mistakes.
You have too many photos.
It’s good to include a few profile photos to give a potential match a better idea of who you are, but you don’t want to put too many. Some dating experts recommend four or five. That way, potential matches aren’t browsing for too long in search of a picture they don’t like. Your photos should be interesting and, of course, you should be in them. They should not, however, include too many other people — especially not someone who might be mistaken for a current romantic partner.
You have a boring bio.
Your bio needs to be interesting and genuine. You don’t want to write a novel, but it should be more than a couple words. If you’re taking Tinder seriously, ditch the jokes and just be yourself.
You swipe too little (or too much).
The shotgun method (swiping right on everyone to eventually get a match or two) is probably not working in your favor. Then again, being too picky and swiping left on every potential match might not work either. Be fair and honest, and try being open minded about matches You might be surprised.
You lack momentum.
If you aren’t starting conversations or initiating dates, you might as well not have a dating profile in the first place. Simply keeping a backlog of matches you don’t plan on speaking to won’t get you anywhere.
However, when you finally strike up a conversation with a match, go in with a little more than “What’s up?” You’ve got to give a little to get something back — without coming on too strong. Bringing up anything sexual or inappropriate in your first conversation, even if it’s in jest, probably won’t get you a date.
Not a Tinder Fan? Try These Alternatives
If you’ve had your fill of Tinder, you might be ready to try something new. Check out a few of these Tinder alternatives:
- Match.com: When you’re ready to get serious and want an app that has more detailed profiles, Match.com is the place to go.
- Once: Take online dating a little slower with just one match per 24 hours.
- Bumble: If you’re a woman looking to avoid creepy hookup requests, Bumble puts the power in your hands to initiate conversations with matches.
- HER: This app is for queer, lesbian, and bi women looking for women like them.
Get the app that makes the most sense for you, take some time creating your profile and find someone you like. Then, strike up a conversation and see if it leads to a first date.
If you are going to meet someone from a dating app in person, consider doing a quick background search on them to put your mind at ease.